MEMORISE : Thus saith the LORD; Cursed be the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the LORD. JEREMIAH 17 : 5. READ : ROMANS 1 : 28 – 32 : 28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave […]



When your religious leader has to pray before you choose your partner



At 28 years, Joan, a top-notch chef with one of the renowned hotels in town had received six marriage proposals in her lifetime and had experienced four broken relationships in between. But when Abdul came on board with keen interest for her hand in marriage, she felt she was of age and wouldn’t want to have another record of broken relationship added, she decided to go extra mile by taking Abdul’s name to her spiritual leader to help her pray and confirm if their relationship would be good to go. The man prayed, and according to him, he assured her to go ahead because the relationship was God-ordained. Four months into their courtship, Jide showed up! Jide happened to be a guy Joan had always had crush on right from their teenage years till their university days and the feeling was still there. She was confused and at the same…

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10 Things Never To Say To A Spouse During A Fight

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As you increase communication with your spouse, arguments will happen. You may wish you could turn back the clock — over and over again. Hopefully, humor can keep the argument from exploding out of control. If not, misunderstandings and fights tend to occur with greater frequency.

Now, for those wondering, there is no, “How to Argue Correctly for Dummies,” manual or an, “Arguments 101,” class. Nor is there such a thing as a perfect relationship where disagreements never pop up. Despite the inevitability of an argument, some things should never be said. Here is a list of 10 of them.

1. “I want a divorce.”

While the coals of temper are ablaze, it is easy to say things you do not mean. Asking for divorce, though, even if amends have been made and forgiveness, requested, is a difficult thing to erase. It brings a lack of confidence in one another.

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S. Korea developers develops smartphone application to restraints student suicide

South Korea has developed smartphone apps to help bring down its high student suicide rate by warning parents when their children might be at risk, the education ministry said Friday.

The government-developed apps, which the ministry hopes to introduce immediately, are programmed to detect “suicide-related” words used by children on social networks or in messages or Internet searches on their phones.

This would then trigger an alert which would be sent to the parents on their smartphones.

Although their use is not mandatory, the ministry hopes the apps will be installed by a large number of parents as an extra precaution against school-related stress for children.

“Student suicide has become a social problem requiring systematic and comprehensive steps to prevent it,” the ministry said in a statement.

South Korea’s suicide rate ranks among the highest of the 34 member nations of the Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD).

Student suicides are a particular problem, peaking every year around the time of the hyper-competitive national college entrance exam.

Education ministry data shows that 878 students took their own lives between 2009 and 2014, including 118 last year.

The most commonly cited cause in school-age suicides was problems at home, followed by depression, grades and career concerns.

– Half have suicidal thoughts –

Just over half of South Korean teenagers aged 14 to 19 confessed to having suicidal thoughts, according to a survey conducted last year by the state-financed Korea Health Promotion Foundation.

More than 40 per cent of those respondents said school pressure and future uncertainty concerned them the most.

The survey found South Korean teens often lack access to professional help or are reluctant to seek it out, with almost half turning to friends instead of teachers, counsellors or parents.

The education ministry said its apps would provide a way of monitoring those interactions with friends for any danger signs.

“The apps were only approved today at a meeting of related cabinet members, but we hope their installation will spread quickly among schools, students and parents nationwide,” a ministry official told AFP.

Smartphone penetration in South Korea is one of the world’s highest with nearly 85 percent of households having a device.

Teachers gave a wary reception to the new initiative, saying more effort should be focused on the causes of suicidal tendencies among students, rather then detecting symptoms.

“Instead of a stop-gap policy, we must work out a fundamental and eventual solution, because various factors lead to the suicide of students,” the conservative Korean Federation of Teachers’ Associations said in a statement.

– Privacy issues? –

The more liberal Korean Teachers and Education Workers Union said the apps raised privacy issues and failed to address systemic problems.

“Any direct monitoring of social networks and messaging services raises possible cause for concern,” the union said in a statement, adding that the high-stress exam system also needed reviewing.

Success in the college entrance exam means a secured place in one of South Korea’s elite universities — a key to future careers as well as marriage prospects — and parental pressure can be fierce.

According to the education ministry, South Korean parents spent 19 trillion won ($17.5 billion) on extra tuition for their children in 2013 — equivalent to about 1.5 percent of the national GDP.

With so much riding on the outcome, the day of the exam — held simultaneously in 1,257 centres nationwide — sees the entire country switch to silent mode.

The transportation ministry bans all airport landings and departures for a 40-minute period to coincide with the main language listening test.

The military also reschedules airforce drills and live-firing exercises, while traffic is barred from within a 200-metre (218-yard) radius of test centres.

EXCLUSIVE: ICC to investigate Patience Jonathan

bVspThe International Criminal Court (ICC) on Monday confirmed receiving correspondence from the All Progressives Congress (APC), against Patience Jonathan, the Nigerian first lady.

TheCable had written to the Office of the Prosecutor (OTP) seeking clarification on reports that the court had formally received a petition against the first lady from APC.

The response was that communication was received from APC and the petition would be given the necessary considerations within the ambits of the the law.

“Under Article 15 of the Rome Statute, the Prosecutor of the ICC may receive information on crimes within the jurisdictionon the Court (also called ‘communications’),” OTP said.

“With regards to your enquiry, the Office of the Prosecutor of the International Criminal Court can confirm receipt of the communication referred to since the sender of the communication has made this fact public in the media.”

Earlier on Monday, the United Kingdom arm of the APC claimed that the criminal court said it would begin investigating the wife of the president.

“The ICC based in the Hague has sent confirmation to APC UK, that an investigation will begin against Mrs Jonathan who repeatedly called for the stoning of opposition APC members as captured in the videos released earlier this month,” it said.

“The criminal case investigation ICC reference number is: OTP-CR-83/15.”

The OTP also told TheCable that it would consider the stance of the APC and treat the allegations as appropriate.

“The Office will give consideration to this communication, as appropriate, in accordance with the provisions of the Rome Statute of the International Criminal Court, as it does with all such communications.”

Inorder to ensure a violence-free election, political parties signed a peace accord in January, promising to desist from all acts of violence, hate and inciting speeches.

The APC however filed a complaint before the ICC against Mrs. Jonathan for her inciting speeches, having told Nigerians at a campaign in Cross River to stone anyone who comes to the state to preach “change” – the mantra of the APC.

Fatou Bensouda, prosecutor of the International Criminal Court, released a statement on Monday threatening anyone fuelling violence ahead of the election would be prosecuted.

“Any person who incites or engages in acts of violence in the context of the upcoming elections or otherwise – including by ordering, inciting, encouraging or contributing to the commission of crimes that fall within ICC’s jurisdiction – is liable to prosecution; either by Nigerian Courts or by the ICC,” the statement read.

“No one should doubt my office’s resolve to prosecute individuals responsible for the commission of ICC crimes, whenever necessary.”

Buhari is the Mandela of our time – Okorocha

Governor Rochas Okorocha of Imo State, has likened the presidential standard bearer of the All Progressives Congress, APC, Major-General Muhammadu Buhari (retd) to the late South African freedom fighter, Nelson Mandela.

According to him, Buhari remained the only person who can perfectly steer and stabilise the sinking ship of the country.

Okorocha gave took the position while addressing Imo State indigenes who gathered on the banner of Imo State Towns Development Association Lagos (ISTDAL) at a colourful reception for him at Teslim Balogun Stadium, Lagos, on Monday.

He noted that at 72, the only desire of Gen. Buhari was to trash the rot in the polity and move on.

The governor, who addressed the gathering in Igbo language, said if the South-East region wanted to produce Nigeria’s president in no distant time, they must elect Buhari.

Hear him, “Buhari is the Mandela of our time. At 72, what does he want? He will do one term, fix the country and move on and then power will come back to the South. When power rotates to the South, the South-East will have it in 2019 because the South-West has had it through Chief Olusegun Obasanjo and the South-South through Dr Goodluck Jonathan.’’


According to him, ‘’under President Jonathan’s administration, the South-East is not among the five topmost positions in the country (President, Vice President, Senate President, Chief Justice of the Federation, Speaker of the House of Representatives), does not have any of the service chiefs, Inspector General of Police, Comptroller of Customs, Immigration, Civil Defence, etc. We only have comptroller of Prisons. This is not fair”